Wisdom from "Sex and the City"

... a few thoughts from Carrie, Samantha, Miranda & Charlotte

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Don't force an attraction.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man
before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends
because the man was not treating you as you deserve.
Then, heck, no you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Have faith in God regarding your relationship,
but don't let faith make you stupid.
God does things decent and in order.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship,
take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable.
Do you really want to be with a man like that?

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll
be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

Avoid men who got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
why would he treat you any differently?

You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

Always put yourself and your happiness first.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

Be honest and upfront.

Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".
Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out
(but don't wait for him, move on).

If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you,
watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

Don't let him place rules on you
that he is not willing to follow himself --double-standard.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.

Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

Don't compete with other woman,
but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.

If you think he is cheating, he probably is.
Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, leave him.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.

Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

To use painful hard-won wisdom --'get it right' the next time.

Know that you deserve to be the number one person
in the life of the number one person in your life.

Love is a verb.

Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying
to make someone unavailable, available,
someone ungiving, giving,
and someone unloving, loving.

All men are NOT dogs.

If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.

You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complementary... not supplementary.

Dating is fun...
Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Never become your man's "therapist".

When actions and words conflict, believe the actions.
Respond to the actions.

A real healthy relationship requires two people.
One person can end it.
But it takes two to make it work.

Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"
... when a man loves you
there is nothing in this world (within reason)
that he wouldn't do for you.

Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him,
he takes you forgranted.

Give him his space...
let him go out with his boys,
don't pressure him to spend time with you,
you can't force a man to hang out with you.

Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.

Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.

Never spoil your man;
Let him spoil you.

When it's time to let go; let go.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socio economic status, are important.

Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.